bus-util: improve logging when we can't connect to the bus

bus-util: improve logging when we can't connect to the bus

Previously, we'd already have explicit logging for the case where
$XDG_RUNTIME_DIR is not set. Let's also add some explicit logging for
the EPERM/ACCESS case. Let's also in both cases suggest the
--machine=<user>@.host syntax.

And while we are at it, let's remove side-effects from the macro.

By checking for both the EPERM/EACCES case and the $XDG_RUNTIME_DIR case
we will now catch both the cases where people use "su" to issue a
"systemctl --user" operation, and those where they (more correctly, but
still not good enough) call "su -".

Fixes: #17901